MagicalBunny wrote:I've said guys here were good looking, before, and that I'd rather date an average looking guy and a top tier male model, but they gave me a similar reaction. There used to be more optimistic, reasonable guys here who were just a bit lonely and all, but it seems a lot of the nicer people are gone now, maybe, because they're more reasonable, they realized that being down on themselves won't help anything.
I think its easier to channel hatred when you're thinking. in extremes. Its not rational to think that the only valuable male in existence is male model material but having a common enemy helps a range of guys form a collective to belong.
Men are formidable but when a cancer like self doubt and low self esteem maims them, they are easy to manipulate. They become weak for a time. We all go through our lows; I just feel saddened that some of this gets conflated in the minds of men who could do way better as some sort reality.
I'm sure reasonable posters will come and go. I don't believe at any given time this forum is purely individuals like Cats. I like to see guys help each other be better. Its a beautiful uplifting thing and a huge part of why I'd lurk on forums. I steal some tips for myself because female forums are useful but in different ways. Have you ever tried to get feedback on establishing aesthetic goals in a female forum? They will tell you guys fuck everyone and its only what's on the inside that counts.